Friday, October 2, 2015

MomWise--> Discipline: Who Needs It?

Sweet ladies!  For those of you who missed it, I wanted to share our MomWise get together with you. Thursday night we had our first MomWise of the year which is where our lovely Mentor Moms host us at one of their homes and try to impart all the knowledge and wisdom they have to share in about 2 hours on whatever the topic may be.  Ruth Wagner, thanks for your lovely hospitality!  You have a beautiful home!

This week we discussed "Discipline- Who Needs It?"

Nancy led us in a great discussion pointing out scriptures and books that were relevant to raising obedient children.  The main book she used was from James Dobson's Dare to Discipline,

Dobson says, "Multiplying is more than producing children.  It's also producing faith in children."    

We want our kids to have faith, and to have their own faith, not the faith of their parents or grandparents.  This is a faith they must find for themselves.  

Deuteronomy 6:1-9 talks about the statutes and rules that God commanded us to teach our kids. 

 Verses 5-9 say, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might..You shall teach [these words] diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house...You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates." 

These are words that we can't pass on unless we have them in our hearts ourselves.  How true that is!  I want my kids to have God's word hidden in their hearts so that when they are faced with trials or temptations or something they don't understand, they'll have scripture to turn to.  I can't depend on the church leaders to teach my kids everything because they're only at church a couple of hours a week.  I'm with them all day long.  I am the best teacher my kids have.  How am I going to to lead?  What am I going to teach them?  What do I want them to learn?  

Another key point Dobson makes is "Love and obedience are the closest of friends.  And God's design for parents is a loving obedient relationship with their children."  

John 14:15 says, "If you love me, you will keep my commandments."  We want our kids to obey God.  This begins with us teaching discipline to our kids so they can know how to obey.  Then when it's time to obey God, they know how to do it.  

Proverbs 3: 11-12, "Do not despise the Lord's instruction, my son, and do not loathe His discipline; for the Lord disciplines the one He loves, just as a father, the son he delights in." 

Discipline is such a hard thing sometimes.  I see myself being more laid back as a parent and at times I wonder if I'm being to lax with disciplining.  There are definite "no-no's" in the house and Jett is well aware of them.  But I think there are times when he wants to do something and it's really not going to hurt either way if he does or doesn't.  He's 3.5 years old.  He's exploring and learning everyday.  Time-out is enforced if certain lines are crossed.  A pop on the bottom may happen if it's to correct a behavior that may be harmful to him or his sister.   I'm still learning this "mom thing" too.  I'm looking to others and scripture to see what is best for my kids.  Advice comes in all forms.  We must learn what works best for our us and for our kids.  

Another thing Nancy shared was from Kay Arthur's book, A Marriage Without Regrets.  

Arthur says there are 4 Greatest Gifts that we can give our children.  

1. The gift of parents who love each other-(security, peace and joy).  Marriage and the home it creates is a secure haven where a boy and girl can grow and develop into a healthy, strong individual. A greenhouse of sorts.
2. The gift of access to our time and attention (available, reachable, touchable and accessible)-children need you to parent them! They need you there to: talk to; wrestle and snuggle and tickle and play and laugh with; turn to when the days seem dark and hopeless; test theories, wild ideas, and crazy dreams; have enough energy and focus to make each child feel loved, cherished and special; share not just body, but heart and soul; kiss away the hurts, bandage the cuts, and speak comfort to the broken heart.
3. The gift of time: both quantity and quality-a nonrenewable resource. How wise we need to be in how we spend it. A brief 18 years.
4. The gift of lavish love (touch them, hold them, caress them… even if you weren't brought up this way.) If you have never had this modeled in your own life, ask God to lead you to someone who can teach you (Titus 2). Ask Him to show you the importance of your touch, our presence, your physical care, and your attention.

How true these words are!  We have free gifts we can give our children all the time.  They are so hungry for us.  Mama! Mama! Mama!  Come see!  Come here!  Watch this!  Play with me!  It's constant and it tell us that our kids need these free gifts we can give them.  

I hope you're able to take away something from this post.  There are TONS of resources out there we can use to "better ourselves" as parents.  Nancy has lots of other books that I didn't even mention and would love to share titles with you if you're interested.  Also, remember that our Mentor Moms will be front and center at the next meeting, so if you have other questions for them.  Please let me or your table leader know so they can get the question to Michelle.  

Thursday, September 24, 2015

September 17th Meeting and other fun stuff!

Hey sweet ladies!  

Just wanted to say how thankful I am that each of you are part of our MOPS group at FBC Charlottesville this year!  I hope you had a great time at the first meeting and if you missed it, here's a little recap:  

Thankful for mamas with creative gifts! (Painted signs by Gina, all photos by Sarah Edens)

We started the morning with a delicious breakfast provided by our Leadership Team (Steering, Table Leaders and Mentor Moms).  Thanks ladies! 
Turn your crumbs into Feasts and moments into Celebrations!
All I need today is a little bit of coffee and a whole lot of Jesus!

Then we had to go over some housekeeping rules, introductions and "first day of school" announcements.  We shared the MOPS International video of "A Fierce Flourishing" that you can watch here:

Your fearless leader, Jenny Street, shared a testimony that she hopes inspired you in some way.  It is her prayer that this year all of us learn how to flourish, to celebrate lavishly, to embrace rest and notice goodness.  
We, as moms, have some little ones depending on us and counting on us to come through for them. So, as moms, we need to make sure we are taking time for ourselves, that we're celebrating those little milestones (crawling, potty training, talking in full sentences) of our kids so that when we do embrace rest, we are resting in the fact that God is a God who loves and provides and gives grace abundantly.  We want to notice the goodness around us that is ever present, yet not always applauded. What are some good things you have noticed today?  How do you feel you find rest most often? Is there something in your home that needs to be celebrated?  (To answer the question below, pay attention here: Today, in our house we're celebrating my daughter's 10 month birthday!)

We also had a super fun and easy craft for this meeting!  Gina and Sarah made sure we all had enough beads and tassels for our necklaces.  I like that we were able to make something similar yet so original for ourselves.  So neat!   

The team I get to work with this year is so stinking awesome!  I can't say enough wonderful things about them.  Thanks so much for all of your hard work and willingness to help out.  You are fabulous!  
Most of the Leadership Team 2015-2016!  Love you ladies! 
So, that's a bit of our first meeting.  If you didn't make it, we definitely missed you!  But we hope to see you October 1st at our next meeting.  The Orange and Teal tables will be providing breakfast for us.  We'll have a great guest speaker (a husband of one of our very own MOPS moms!) and news about some fun outings coming up.  

Look forward to seeing you there!  Oh, and if you read this blog, tell me the answer to this question at the next meeting and I'll give you a surprise:  What did my family celebrate this week?  



Monday, September 21, 2015

September/October newsletter is available online!

You can find an online copy of our first newsletter here.

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Directions to the church for MOPS (repost from a year ago, because they haven't changed!)

Three Things to Know About Cville MOPS...

One week until the first MOPS Meeting of 2015-2016! That's right, our first meeting kicks off on Thursday, September 17th, at 9:30 am. You can drop your children off beginning at 9:15 am (see below for location). If you are new to MOPS, we are so glad to have you join us this year! And to help you get acquainted with our group, here are the "top three things" to know about MOPS!

1. We meet at First Baptist Church (FBC) Park Street in Charlottesville, at 735 Park Street. FBC is a wonderful, large facility. It can be a bit tricky finding your way around if you haven't been there before. Arriving at the church, you will notice there are two entrances. The easiest one to use for a MOPS meeting is the one to the left if you are facing the front of the church from Park Street (pictured below). It is the entrance closer to downtown.

Once you turn into FBC, you will drive around the building to your left, and make your way to the rear of the church.

In the above picture you can see the playground on your right. You can park in any available space here, however, if you have babies or small kiddos you may want to continue on towards the other end of the buildings so you won't have to walk as far. Our MOPS meeting takes place in the Fellowship Hall (pictured below).  This will be the last building as you drive around the rear of the church campus. You will enter the meeting through the right set of double doors.  If this is your first MOPS meeting at FBC, please come to the meeting room first with your children, and we will be happy to direct you to the correct room(s) for their childcare. 

2. We know it can be crazy getting out the door with little ones, so don't worry about breakfast, it's on us!  Yay! FOOD! After a few announcements, we start our meetings off with a delicious breakfast for our moms.  Our first breakfast will be provided by our Steering Committee; then we will rotate by tables for each meeting.

3. Our childcare workers are wonderful and take great care of our little ones!  We are so blessed to have many wonderful women take care of our kids so that we can get a break twice a month. If you have any questions regarding childcare, please contact our Childcare Coordinator, Cynthia Pistulka (  If you have questions the morning of our first meeting, there will be MOPS Leadership as well as childcare workers stationed around the buildings to assist you in finding the correct room, the bathrooms, etc.

So there are my "top 3." If you have been to MOPS before, what would be in yours? If you have any advice/encouragement for our new moms regarding MOPS please tell us by leaving a comment on this post.  We look forward to seeing y'all September 17th! 

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Last Meeting, May 21, 2015, Thursday

It's hard to believe we had our last meeting a few weeks ago! It was a great meeting - a time to reflect, share how MOPS has helped us to "Be You Bravely," and just have fun catching up at our tables.

Happy birthday, Summer Birthday Mamas!

15-Jun            Laurie Burke
11-Jun            Amy McKee
11-Jul             Rachel Fields
9-Jun              Michelle Criser
24-Jul             Sarah Edens
21-Jul             Jennifer McArtor
17-Jul             Kelly Kaufman
Aug                Crystal Martin (sorry, I didn't catch the exact date!)

Announcement: If you have boy clothes 4T-5T for a family who lost their house to a fire, please let Laurie Burke know and/or drop them off at her home.

Michelle Criser shared her testimony about how God truly changed her heart after she placed her faith in Him in college. Even though her parents rejected her faith in Christ and did not want to hear about her new life in God, she had no regrets and continued to pursue God and grow in him in college. Through struggles and loss she began to know God as comforter, as her Peace, and as Love after she had her first son and realized the love she had for her boy paled in comparison to that of God.

Played David Crowder “He Loves Us”:

Thank you everyone for a wonderful year and for sharing your time, talents, and hearts!

A Fierce Flourishing – MOPS theme for 2015-16
For you shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands. Isaiah 55:12  

Remember what it looks like to flourish: celebrate lavishly, embrace rest, and notice goodness.

MOPS Promo video:

VBS at First Baptist Church is July 6-10. Sign up here:

Friday, May 8, 2015

The May 2015 Newsletter is Now Online

The May newsletter is now available online! Please click this link to view and download this month's newsletter, featuring an introduction to our new Coordinator for 2015/2016, Jenny Street!

Monday, April 27, 2015

April 23rd Meeting Recap

What a fun morning we had at MOPS!

Here's a nice hello from some of our youngest MOPPETS and mamas Gina and Amy!
This meeting featured a guest speaker from Discovery Toys, April Nix, but first, we have many, many announcements:

  • Canvas and Coffee MNO was a huge success! Many thanks to Jen Skipper for leading the group in a painting a beautiful dogwood picture. We hope to plan another Canvas and Coffee MNO for next year!
  • Mom-Wise event will be Friday May 1st at Nancy Ryalls home @ 7pm. The discussion topic will be Healthy Boundaries. Snacks and beverages provided.. just bring yourself!
  • Droff for FBC's Spring Giveaway will be held April 29th, 30th and May 1st at FBC.  See times listed on the adjacent flyer.
  • MOPS Swap - at the meeting May 7th. Please bring in gently used accessories (think scarves, jewelry, belts, purses, bags, makeup bags, hair clips, like-new condition shoes). Please bring ALL donations to FBC by Wednesday evening, 5/6 for  MOPS setup at 7:30 pm. Each table can organize a collection person who could bring the items to prior to MOPS setup on 5/6.
  • MOPS Family Picnic - May 16th, from 4-7pm at the Dunlora Clubhouse. MOPS will provide bbq and a bounce house for the kiddos. Tables will bring a side or dessert and will come with a family picnic game ready to play. More info to come. 
  • Secret Sisters - can begin revealing yourself to your secret sister at the next meeting, May 7th. Just hand your final gift to your sister and give her a big hug!
  • At the last meeting on May 21st, we will collect and deliver any cards or gift items for MOPPETS workers. Remember, they really like Starbucks if you need an idea! :)

As the meeting started, Laurie announced that Jenny Street will be the MOPS Coordinator next year! Many Steering Team positions are available - please let Laurie or Jenny know if you are interested. Positions include: Table Leader Coordinator, Service Coordinator, Prayer and Care, Publicity - blog, photography, Facebook and Newsletter and of course we need Table Leaders!

We were blessed with Mentoring Mom Laurie Miller sharing a little of her story with us. Laurie wanted all of us to know that God's plan is always better than our plans, even in the midst of trials and hardships. Some favorite scripture quotes Laurie shared were Isaiah 55:8-9, Jeremiah 29:11-13 and Isaiah 43:18-19.

Finally, speaker April Nix spoke to us about educational and creative play for our children. April talked about having a "sensory diet" with our kids - activities that incorporate as many senses as possible; incorporating "parallel talk" with small ones - explaining what the child is doing before the child can talk/explaining cause and effect (example: "Oh you fell and bumped your bottom. I know that hurts"); and she introduced the "concept of word," which is a program that exposes children to the concept of reading using poem memorization. You can visit April's website at Discovery Toys here.

See you in May!!