- The Young Lives Charlottesville Yard Sale will be on May 10th at Cross Life Church on the corner of Old Brook and Rio Rd. The sale will be from 8am-1p. Young Lives is an organization that mentors teen mom. Proceeds will benefit their summer camp trip to New York.
- Items are being collected on May 1st and 2nd at FBC for a "Free Yard Sale" at First Baptist Church on May 3rd; contact Megan Stephens for more information.
- Vacation Bible School at FBC will be held July 7 - 11. Volunteer registration is now available online. Children must be 4 years old by 9/30/14 to participate; however the children of volunteers who are younger than that may participate.
- Congrats to Shannon T. and Amy V. on the births of our newest Moppettes! Both mommies gave birth to healthy baby boys!
- Thanks to all of those who hard work made the MOPS Dinner Party Possible! It was a lovely evening for all involved!
- Mundy Richards' birthday is on Wednesday, April 30th. Please remember her family in prayer this week and especially on that day.
- The door prizes were provided by Wendy F. and Gina L., and the winners were Melissa R. and Kathy F. Congrats ladies!
- For those who attended this meeting, you may remember Michelle C. wasn't feeling well. I am happy to report that she and the baby are doing fine now!
Michelle Cox |
We learned that Michelle accepted Christ at age 7, but that she recalls her real walk with the Lord beginning in high school. She was blessed to have a wonderful pastor in high school. During a short mission trip to Mexico she recalls really beginning to memorize scripture. One of the verses that stands out is 1 Peter 5:7, "Cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you." Michelle went on to attend college in Kansas. She then went overseas to Slovakia. She didn't know the language and had few distractions, but she felt far from the Lord. She met and married a man she believed to be a Christian, but during the relationship she endured much physical abuse. She felt deep shame and very far from the Lord. Michelle describes it feeling like she was wearing a scarlet "D", which stood for devastation, destruction, and divorce.
After her marriage ended, Michelle began meeting with a Christian counselor. The counselor told her when we conceal secrets we are trapped by them. So Michelle chose to let people know her story, and she chose to forgive her abuser.
Michelle tells us that she has learned that suffering always has a purpose with God. Sometimes as Christians we expect that God should make us happy, but that God is far more concerned with our holiness than our happiness. She concluded by sharing a line from a Matthew West song, "I am no longer defined, by all the wreckage behind." Thank you so much Michelle for sharing the awesome way God has worked in your life!
Janet Mancini |
Janet tells us of the beginning of her relationship with her husband. Janet was a nurse and her husband a doctor. She had no plans to ever marry a doctor! After her wedding in April she became pregnant in June, and felt overwhelmed by all of the changes in her life. She describes the first year of her marriage as very bitter. She soon found herself home with three small children while her doctor husband worked long hours at the hospital. The hour she dreaded most each day was the "arsenic hour" between 5 and 6pm. She grew very dissatisfied and angry with her husband and her whole life. All of her prayers started with "I"..."I need this Lord" and "I deserve this" and "I, I, I". Janet calls this an "I problem". She says she gradually came to realize that she had really wanted a husband, a family, and to stay at home with her kids, so why was she blaming her husband for all of her problems? She learned that she needed to focus on the good things about her husband - that he was providing for her family, allowing her to be at home, and so she should be thankful instead of resentful. Janet began praying that God would keep her focus on the blessings.
Another point Janet made is that we should examine how we think the world sees us. Or how is our countenance? Are you seen as perpetually angry, overwhelmed, and unapproachable? Or are you a breath of fresh air to those around you? How do your children see you? If they think you cannot handle your own life they will be less likely to share their trials with you when they are older. Are you discontent? Janet tells us that a lack of contentment is not a product of your circumstances, it is a state of the soul. If you are discontent you won't be happy even when you get what you think you want. She reminds us that we reap what we sow; if you are discontent now don't be surprised when you have discontent teenagers ten years from now. The cure for a lack of contentment? It is a thankful heart!
Janet went on to share 1 John 4:19. "We love because He first loved us." Jesus loved us even when we were dead in our sin and shame. So we should love others first, and love our husbands first, even when we don't feel like it. And while yes, that includes sex, just sex will not cut it. Your husband needs to feel affirmed, respected, and desired. Janet urges us to support our husbands; he should know that you have his back.
While sex is not the only thing, it is very important! Sex can make a huge difference in how your husband perceives you. Often as women we expect to be romanced and then we will be intimate; but Janet says we should reverse that. Have sex with your husband and then see how much more willing he is to talk to you and share with you!
Janet then explained that we should learn what our husbands main needs are. In her experience those needs could be 1. Sex 2. Exercise 3. Food. Ask your husband! She says that when something seems awry with her marriage she thinks of those three needs to see if one or more are not being met.
A great piece of advice for wives whose husbands travel is to never let him leave town with a "full tank". In other words, be sure to have sex before he leaves. Yep, Janet keeps it real ladies. She also thinks it a great idea to have the kids write little notes or draw pictures to sneak into his suitcase.
Another idea (one that Janet is rather well-known for) is to plan a big surprise for your husband. When you are planning the surprise, make sure the first thing on the agenda is sex. So if you plan a weekend getaway at a bed and breakfast, don't get there and immediately drag him shopping or off for a hike, go directly to the bedroom first!
Finally, Janet advises us not only to be thankful for our husbands, but to tell him you are thankful for him. And also teach your kids to tell Daddy that they are thankful for him and all that he does. She says that when we honor our husbands they are amazing! God made them to be leaders, providers, strong, brave, and willing to die for us! She says the world needs good marriages, and God made your husband to need you!
Thanks so much to Janet for her humor, candor, and wisdom. It is always a pleasure to have her visit us!
Our next MOPS meeting is on Thursday, May 8th; hope to see you then!
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